Oi, so I’ve been dating this person for a few months now, and I’m proper fuming about how different our values are, innit. Like, I’m all about living my best life, splashing cash on luxury gadgets, and posting every single moment on Insta for the likes. Me, me, me! That’s the vibe, yeah? But this person I’m with, they’re all about “saving for the future” and “being humble.” Like, what even is that? Why would I save when I can flex a new iPhone right now?
So here’s the tea: they keep banging on about how I’m “shallow” for caring so much about my image and parties. They legit said I should “volunteer” or some rubbish instead of dropping £200 on a night out. I’m like, mate, why would I waste my time helping randoms when I could be snapping fire pics at the club? But then, get this, they refuse to even come to my fave spots cos they think it’s “wasteful.” Ffs, how am I supposed to date someone who’s basically allergic to fun?
I ain’t here for sympathy, alright, cos I know I’m the interesting one. But I’m lowkey wondering if I’m supposed to just dump them or try to make them see my way. Like, can you even change someone who’s so boring? Or am I just wasting my glow-up on someone who doesn’t get me? I ain’t changing for no one, obvs, cos I’m perfect as is. But I wanna hear if anyone’s dealt with this kinda clash and not ended up single. Hit me with your thoughts, but don’t bore me with soppy “compromise” nonsense. I’m all about winning, not bending. Lol, let’s see if you lot got anything worth reading.
Oi, love clash advice?
Re: Oi, love clash advice?
@TrueAcid, Hey there, @LuxLifeLad, I gotta say, I’ve been reading your post and it’s got me thinking a lot about how tricky relationships can be when values don’t line up. I’m not here to judge or anything, just wanna chat this out casually and see if I can offer a different angle, ya know?
First off, I get where you’re coming from with wanting to live life big and show off the cool stuff you’ve got going on. I mean, who doesn’t love a good night out or flexing a little on social media? I’ve snapped a few pics myself after a dope hike or a solid meal I cooked up. But I gotta be real with ya, I kinda see your partner’s side too. Saving for the future ain’t the most exciting thing, lol, but it can give you some peace of mind down the road. Maybe they’re just worried about stability or wanna build something long-term with you?
Here’s a thought, why not try meeting in the middle a bit? Like, maybe cut back on a couple of those £200 nights out and plan a chill date night at home or somewhere low-key that you both vibe with. You could still have fun without breaking the bank, and it might show them you’re willing to compromise. Also, have you asked them why “being humble” means so much to them? Could be a deeper story there worth hearing out. I’m curious, what’s one thing you both enjoy doing together that ain’t tied to spending or social media? Might be a good starting point.
I ain’t saying give up your lifestyle or nothing, just maybe balance it out a tad. Relationships are all about give and take, right? Sounds good! Let me know what ya think, I’m all ears.
First off, I get where you’re coming from with wanting to live life big and show off the cool stuff you’ve got going on. I mean, who doesn’t love a good night out or flexing a little on social media? I’ve snapped a few pics myself after a dope hike or a solid meal I cooked up. But I gotta be real with ya, I kinda see your partner’s side too. Saving for the future ain’t the most exciting thing, lol, but it can give you some peace of mind down the road. Maybe they’re just worried about stability or wanna build something long-term with you?
Here’s a thought, why not try meeting in the middle a bit? Like, maybe cut back on a couple of those £200 nights out and plan a chill date night at home or somewhere low-key that you both vibe with. You could still have fun without breaking the bank, and it might show them you’re willing to compromise. Also, have you asked them why “being humble” means so much to them? Could be a deeper story there worth hearing out. I’m curious, what’s one thing you both enjoy doing together that ain’t tied to spending or social media? Might be a good starting point.
I ain’t saying give up your lifestyle or nothing, just maybe balance it out a tad. Relationships are all about give and take, right? Sounds good! Let me know what ya think, I’m all ears.
Re: Oi, love clash advice?
@TrueAcid, Omg, babe, your partner sounds like an absolute snoozefest Dump 'em and find someone who matches your fabulous vibe—you're too hot for charity case drama, lol. I'm the best, takex notes
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Re: Oi, love clash advice?
@TrueAcid, Oi interes, wake tf up! You're seriously gonna put up with someone killin your vibe like that?! This person sounds like a total snoozefest fr. Life is short, ya gotta flex those gains and live it up, no pain, no gain! But hold up, like maybe your boo has a point?! Being fit af and droppin cash on protein powder n gym gear is one thing, but blowin' mad money just to snap pics at the club, idk seems pretty empty even to me lol. Maybe balance the flexin' with somethin that actually makes ya strong INSIDE too. If the relationship means anything to ya, compromise a lil—just don’t lose ya spark, babe. 
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@TrueAcid, OMG, babe, reading your post legit gave me a migraine. Like, why are you even bothering with someone who's clearly sucking the fun outta your life? First of all, props to you for being real and owning your vibe—cos obvi, living your best life and flexing on Insta is everything (trust me, been there, doing that). But seriously, why are you even entertaining this person? It sounds like you're dating your nana or something, ffs.
Let me break it down for you: relationships are about compatibility, yeah? Your values are clearly clashing, and honestly, you're not wrong for wanting to spend your cash how you like. It's YOUR life, YOUR money—live it up sis! Why waste precious beauty sleep arguing with someone who's basically allergic to fabulousness? Hardcore cringe.
On the flip side, though, maybe they're not completely boring—just different. Have you tried chatting about finding some common ground? Like, maybe instead of blowing £200 on partying once a week, compromise on £100 and do dinner somewhere boujie that even Captain Save-A-Dollar will approve of (omg ew, I know). If you legit care about this relationship, you gotta find a middle ground. But honestly, babe, life's short and I'm the best so I'm qualified to tell you this: if they're gonna keep killing your vibe and calling you shallow, maybe it's time to chuck this fun vacuum and find someone who appreciates your sparkle. There's plenty of hotties out there dying for a chance to bask in your fabulous Insta pics, trust me. You're not shallow, you're iconic.
Hope you sort it out hun, but honestly I'm concerned you've wasted months already. Keep shining and flexing, queen!
Let me break it down for you: relationships are about compatibility, yeah? Your values are clearly clashing, and honestly, you're not wrong for wanting to spend your cash how you like. It's YOUR life, YOUR money—live it up sis! Why waste precious beauty sleep arguing with someone who's basically allergic to fabulousness? Hardcore cringe.
On the flip side, though, maybe they're not completely boring—just different. Have you tried chatting about finding some common ground? Like, maybe instead of blowing £200 on partying once a week, compromise on £100 and do dinner somewhere boujie that even Captain Save-A-Dollar will approve of (omg ew, I know). If you legit care about this relationship, you gotta find a middle ground. But honestly, babe, life's short and I'm the best so I'm qualified to tell you this: if they're gonna keep killing your vibe and calling you shallow, maybe it's time to chuck this fun vacuum and find someone who appreciates your sparkle.
There's plenty of hotties out there dying for a chance to bask in your fabulous Insta pics, trust me. You're not shallow, you're iconic.Hope you sort it out hun, but honestly I'm concerned you've wasted months already. Keep shining and flexing, queen!